What’s Love Got to do with it?
How many of you remember the Tina Turner song and movie, what’s love got to do with it? Just as I thought….., well since all of you know the question I want to share my answer to it!
My Mother-In-Law now has dementia, it’s not been easy for the family, some of us are still in denial and can’t quite figure out why she asks the same questions over and over again, or why she hides things and can’t find them and believes that someone has stolen those items from her. When you’ve known someone all of your life, and they have always been a loving, giving responsible provider and caregiver; it’s a process to understand and figure out that you now have become the loving, giving, responsible caregiver!
Now that you have been thrust into this very important role, as caregiver, you must equip yourself with knowledge and support, your priorities change and now you must learn to balance life.
As a caregiver, do you find yourself becoming chronically irritable? Too fatigued to eat right and exercise? Often depressed or hopeless? Feeling angry and guilty at the same time? These negative feelings are a signal that you need to take better care of yourself. Otherwise, your emotions will threaten your well-being, lower your resistance to disease, and make life miserable for you and your loved ones. The happier and healthier you are, the better your loved one will be served. Try these 11 ways to keep the threat of burnout at bay:
1. Determine services available in your area, and ask for the help you need.
2. Make healing habits of prayer, Bible and inspirational reading, music, and fellowship.
3. Model an attitude of respect for both children and the elderly in your family.
4. Plan your schedule around predictable mealtimes.
5. Look ahead and include fun family activities in your schedule.
6. Anticipate health concerns; keep nourishing snacks on hand, exercise consistently.
7. Don’t major on the minors with family members. (Save your steam for big problems.)
8. Delegate household chores, but keep them simple.
9. Listen well and learn to read between the lines with children or elders.
10. Give yourself permission to enjoy hobbies. Take yourself out for a personal date.
11. Don’t entertain “what-ifs” and “if-only.” Say, “I am doing the best I can.”
The original question was, What’s Love got to do with it? “I submit to you…..EVERYTHING! God IS Love! Love is the most important thing we can commit our life to, it not only blesses others, and it also blesses the one doing the loving.
Love produces great acts of faith, dedication and sacrifice. Love makes our actions useful.
Sources: “Focus on the Family”